• gurty@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    Every time I see one of these posts, it reads like ‘I can’t have kids because that would get in the way of my wanking and smoking pot time’ I mean, it is all good but it’s never ‘my job is very demanding and it would stop me from being able to parent’ or something.

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        7 hours ago

        I’d say ‘don’t reproduce’ but I guess we’re safe on that front.

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          4 hours ago

          You can read their name and where they’re from to draw complete picture of who they are. Sad reality. There’s a level of entitlement that grew like cancer and one day, they’ll face reality check.

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      9 hours ago

      These posts are about having your freedom. That freedom includes careers, ambitions, sometimes luxury vacations. It’s also about how expensive it is to have & raise children. If I had children I would end up just like my neighbors, getting high the minute the kids are in bed and eating shit food. What a horrible life.

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          39 minutes ago

          The horrible life is being a shit parent. If you cannot handle children, don’t have them. No one needs a parent with a drug problem.

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          I guess choosing to have a horrible life, it might be a mindset. I know parents that dread hanging out with their kids and leave them behind with grandma as often as they can to go to like fancy dinners or events. Maybe unplanned pregnancy before discussing things like that with your partner can lead to this kind of feeling of being stuck in life.

          For us we go to events or dinners that we think our kid would enjoy. Like we recently went to Vegas and our kid loves buses and trains so we took the trams around and had a blast. It was the funniest trip to Vegas I’ve had and it was because different aspects if it became fun. The other part of it is enjoying a bunch of stuff over again that you liked as a kid. Tons of nostalgia, coming across old books I used to read but completely forgot about etc

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            3 hours ago

            You sound like a brilliant parent, and you really nailed it on the nostalgia stuff. I have no idea why someone downvoted you, some people are very bitter about stuff.

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      10 hours ago

      Have kids. I’ve gone and raced in 2 lemons races this year with 2 more to follow as well as well have a few trips with the family. My wife has a Noah khan concert coming up and a Boston trip later this year.

      Kids changed things but I assure everyone, I probably have a more active and fun life than most the depressed doom scrollers on here without the kids 🤷‍♂️

      The kids aren’t even that expensive once you get past daycare compared to a mortgage 🤷‍♂️.

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        Kids changed things but I assure everyone, I probably have a more active and fun life than most the depressed doom scrollers on here without the kids

        So much this. It’s so hard to remain a miserable grinch when there’s a tiny human tugging on your limbs, trying to make you touch some actual grass and engage in an epic water gun battle.