Takes too much space but is otherwise alright

Sure. But that’s not the point

It is widely known that only straight white men are responsible for all the evil in the world!

Anyone at all who gives this more that two seconds of thought knows these issues are not to be compared, but to be seen as part of one complex that should be solved as one, should we ever hope to resolve it.

Accentuating issues on one side while grossly belittling ones on the other isn’t gonna cut it. You won’t magically fix the culture of aggression and dominance as the only acceptable behavior, inability to complain and find healthy guidance, social hierarchies and pressures, exclusion and alienation of men from large parts of social life that can be vital to them, the indoctrination by “men are dangerous”, by reducing it to “oh women don’t smile at them, cry me a river”. Neither will the gross overgeneralizations, lumping half the planet’s population into some psycho category, help resolve the matter.

Men need to receive care, attention, to have a safe space for their emotions, to unlearn the unhealthy parts in a safe environment while keeping in touch with themselves and a healthy masculinity. They need healthy interactions with women to receive a balanced and healthy perspective, learn proper boundaries, dispel unhealthy views. We should be on the lookout for individuals who need help and professional attention, and who is most likely to pose danger if left this way. The very things that make some men dangerous grow at their most in isolation. We shouldn’t let it happen, if not for the sake of men, then for the sake of women.

Women can - and should - take part in that. Let’s start simple: it’s totally healthy to address safety concerns, and a lot need to be said about it, but let’s work on the second part, let’s not compare or reduce someone else’s feelings and struggles in a neverending tug of war. We can talk, and there are intertwined issues on both sides that we need to untangle together. Let’s get it done.

It’s a low effort post means to spark gender wars again, and it could absolutely be used ironically.

The worst part - it’s not statistically unlikely at all!

Men often are at the receiving end of physical and psychological abuse, including by women. Such cases are often dismissed by society, worsening the traumatic experience.

I disagree with the message but it’s a shitpost

Eh, it’s the same story as Xerox, Thermos and much more. Google it!

No worries, she’ll come back soon. She always does!

Я выглядит как перевёрнутая R. Человек думал, что это HR, а это НЯ - милота, оно же nyan.

If your operating expenses for a website outweigh hosting 50:1 while most work is done by volunteers, something is seriously wrong with your books.

Wikimedia Foundation has enough assets to keep hosting Wikipedia for the next 60 years, according to their financial reports:

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/foundation/3/3f/Wikimedia_Foundation_FY_24-25_Audit_Report.pdf

Wikipedia will really be fine. It is all the other expenses that raise eyebrows in a major way. This, of course, includes the pay of the executives and high-ranking officials that earn anywhere between $150k to $500k a year, and their salaries keep growing exponentially. At the same time, they spend donated money hiring union-busting firms - presumably, to crush on the latest unionization attempts and keep growing their pay.

https://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/Wikimedia_Foundation_salaries

I remember times not too long ago when you could meet CSAM all over the Web. Often times these were ads for Telegram channels with very graphic screenshots.

For me too sometimes, but this is what it takes to build a community.

Your plans may suddenly take a turn, but in exchange, you get helping hands for whatever you need to do - and a sense that whatever happens, you know the folks

i am NOT clicking that link

Also probably not in New York

You’ll notice that most of the fediverse is talking about Tesseract, not piefed.

Only because Tesseract drama is more recent. People were showing their anger all over the place when both blocklists and vote limits were implemented. A drama there was arguably bigger than the current one.

A prefilled set of defaults

Defaults is something that is easily changed through the same avenue as all the other settings, and comes from technical necessity. This is a deliberate attempt to manipulate visibility of content on the Fediverse, strongarming the dev position.

There is always another instance

For all I know, there is exactly one PieFed instance cleared of this, quokk.au. For that, they had to fork the project, because not all of the changes are as easily reversed as the blocklist. For ideological reasons, plenty of users would rather avoid it, and so boom - they’re out of options. Most PieFed instances wouldn’t be able to maintain a forked project by themselves.

Sane (to most people) starting point for admins

Did you consider the Fediverse demographic? I wouldn’t say most people here necessarily share Rimu’s points, and his attempts to bulldoze it in favor of his views are rightfully seen as a deliberate attack. He uses his power to project his view on a community which, at large, doesn’t stand for the same values.

You still try to build equality between your (and Rimu’s) views and sanity. Plenty here would disagree.

It’s a 3 word SQL query

Which only admins can manage. And let’s not forget the blocklist is not the only controversial decision. As I already mentioned, some require forking the project outright, and it’s a giant mess. Admins do not know what to expect of Rimu next, either.

A) fuck you. B) I’m perfectly happy being hostile to those types.

And this is the gist of it that I was trying to highlight to you. As long as you align in views with Rimu, you don’t see it as that much of a problem. But remember this can be turned against you the second you don’t agree on something. Shutting people up always ends up poorly, especially for those supporting it. Don’t be surprised when it happens.

I find it makes for a much more pleasant fediverse experience.

And that’s why such list should exist. The problematic difference is not the existence of the blocklist, it’s the fact it’s forced upon everyone. A perfect option is making a block list opt-in on a user level. You want to cut out whatever you find unpleasant about the Fediverse? Power to you, here’s a list, just agree to use it and enjoy the same amazing experience. But if you want to see something Rimu doesn’t approve of, you’d rather be able to. Let’s not willfully give up user freedom to the whims of random people.

NOTHING on that list makes the world a better place.

That’s a…heavily opinionated take. To provide a politically neutral example, how did WikiLeaks make it into the list? Did it not do any good, forcing accountability and opening up human rights violations, genocide, and more? There’s so much more to unpack about the list, but it will inevitably result in us going through polarizing political opinions, and, as you mentioned, it won’t get us anywhere.

And if there is one, single take I want you to carry from this conversation: supporting censorship and giving someone to decide what other people can see always ends up very badly, even if that censorship (for now) aligns with your views. People fall for this trap over and over, and never seem to learn.

Farewell.

There are very small dildos that are, like, barely bigger than your index finger. Start from that, use a lot of lube, and eat good amount of fiber.

Make sure you are relaxed enough. If you clench your ass like a guillotine, you won’t enjoy it. Let it slip in gently, naturally, effortlessly. It may still feel weird at first, but then you’ll learn to do it and you’ll have plenty of fun!

Most people found out about the blocklists existence when shit has already hit the fan, and Rimu got to stand his ground. In this sense, it was the same rude awakening.

My point (and largely that of Lemmy) is not that filter lists are bad. Plenty of instances benefit from them, whether it’s a safe space or just something tailored to make your experience better. The point is, they must be applied on the instance and/or user level. Not some messiah dev who decides what all PieFed instances serve to their users, especially not when such dev simply uses it to project his political opinions on a larger part of the Fediverse. People manipulating public opinion and cutting their access to information is everything Fediverse stands against, and this is why it caused such a backlash.

PieFed already did offer user choice: I remember registering to one of the instances (piefed.zip if I recall correctly) and being offered, as a user, to remove things like Musk and Trump posts etc. This is a good approach, as it empowers the user to tailor their feed. But what choice does user have now, when major instances have this baked in list? None.

It’s also an absolutely unnecessary and unwelcome headache for admins. Instead of opting in to whatever admins deem essential, they have to clear the thing of whatever Rimu’s up to next. Standing up for this mess is like saying “Microsoft ain’t that bad, you can remove most of the telemetry and forced apps by clicking switches here, here, and here, and changing these registry keys”. You shouldn’t have to jump through these hoops in the first place, this is hostile development.

You aligning with Rimu politically contributes significantly to the tolerance of such behavior, because it doesn’t largely affect you…yet. But consider this: plenty of people who want to make this place and the world at large better are being shut up by the dev who thinks he knows better. He uses his position as a developer to make choices for all PieFed users. Instead of giving admins the choice, he hardcodes his personal choices (not only blocklists, but also vote limiting and other things that are not as easily removed) into software used by thousands of people, many of which disagree. Does this align with you?

Meeting girls on the Internet absolutely works, it’s just that you should do everything except what you’re told.

Do NOT use dating apps. They are, for the most part, designed to keep you hooked and never actually find a worthy person. If you find your love, you stop being their client.

Use regular social media/weird and obscure places crafted with love/communities by interest/whatever, just not dating apps.

I found my girlfriend in an online chat, and we’re together for 2 years. She moved in with me, and we couldn’t be happier.