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  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtomemes@lemmy.worldScissors
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    You claim anecdotally that a lesbian wouldn’t say they scissor. Pointing out that they do say it suffices. Your experience doesn’t encompass all lesbians of every generation, so we can refer to LGBT+ publications, direct anecdotes, history, & scholarly research. We have direct anecdotes from a podcast & affirming comments. The wikipedia article even calls out exactly what you’re doing & cites scholarly research. It explains with references that it is or was common for some tribadists not to recognize that word (or variants) & use scissoring more broadly to describe their activity.

    Elsewhere, you add that a specific sense of scissoring (that the comic didn’t specify) of rubbing genitals together isn’t real. The cited references have some interesting quotes. In a Hite report

    Sex with a woman for me has involved kissing, feeling one another completely, and basically humping – pressing mound of Venus against mound of Venus or each other’s leg.

    Another cited reference explains tribade historically meant a woman taking the role of penetrator (with dildo or clitoris) before describing Anne Lister’s diary where she mentions genital to genital contact in her tribadism.

    Most of their sexual activity seems to involve Anne touching Mrs. Barlow’s “queer” (as she calls the female genitals) and tribadically rubbing on her.

    Anne manipulates Mrs. Barlow digitally but would prefer full-body tribadism, queer to queer, as she says elsewhere.

    So, they do say they do that, too, even ages ago.

    As for the ngram viewer, it’s not essential, however

    It indicates tribbing hasn’t historically appeared in print much.


  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtomemes@lemmy.worldScissors
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    pride.com says it’s real

    Scissoring is specifically genital on genital tribbing. Some people find varying degrees of success with scissoring vs. other forms of tribbing, but it’s definitely a thing (despite what many have come to think).

    No, it’s not going to look like when you made your Barbies scissor (and we know you did) because humans have joints, and fat, and can get tired in strenuous positions. But with enough practice, communication, and trouble shooting, YES it is attainable for you to scissor if you really really want to.

    The podcast they link to corroborates

    “People are also spreading rumors that lesbians don’t scissor, which I don’t understand,” McCafferty said. “I’m like, that’s not true.”

    “It’s literally all I do,” Myrick deadpanned.

    The two commiserated over apparent frustrations that even lesbians are saying scissoring isn’t a thing.

    “I’m like, ‘Then what are you doing?’” Myrick fired back, before turning the blame onto the wider availability of strap-ons in the midwest.

    Wikipedia mentions the debate

    Some lesbian and bisexual women do not engage in the scissoring position because they find or think it would be physically uncomfortable. They may also think it is a misconception that lesbians engage in the act and is therefore not representative of lesbian sexual practices, attributing it more so to the male fantasies of the heterosexual porn industry. By contrast, some sources, including Shere Hite’s 1976 and 1981 research, indicate that women may enjoy performing the scissoring position with other women because it is a variation of vulva-to-vulva contact or can allow for maximum such contact and therefore an elevated level of intimacy.

    and that scissoring is a common umbrella term, which matches my recollection

    Scissoring is commonly used as an umbrella term for all forms of tribadism, and many lesbian and bisexual women are unaware that some of the sexual acts they include in their lovemaking are aspects of and are formally labeled tribadism, as tribadism is commonly omitted from mainstream sex research.

    It also mentions that tribade and related words had become archaic by the 20th century. ngrams confirms tribbing was obscure until it only recently took off in the last decade: I think pretty much everyone called it scissoring or rubbing before.


  • chatGPT is doing humanity a service here

    Post needs text alternative.

    Images of text break much that text alternatives do not. Losses due to image of text lacking alternative such as link:

    • usability
      • we can’t quote the text without pointless bullshit like retyping it or OCR
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      • the system can’t
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    • accessibility
      • lacks semantic structure (tags for titles, heading levels, sections, paragraphs, lists, emphasis, code, links, accessibility features, etc)
      • some users can’t read the image due to lack of alt text (markdown image description)
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    • web connectivity
      • we have to do failure-prone bullshit to find the original source
      • we can’t explore wider context of the original message
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    Contrary to age & humble appearance, text is an advanced technology that provides all these capabilities absent from images.





  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldw e a k n e s s
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    This post more than others needs accessibility: low contrast, difficult to read even without impairment.

    Images of text break much that text alternatives do not. Losses due to image of text lacking alternative:

    • usability
      • we can’t quote the text without pointless bullshit like retyping it or OCR
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    Contrary to age & humble appearance, text is an advanced technology that provides all these capabilities absent from images.




  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldI have an idea ☝️
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    If every economy is capitalist no matter degree of government planning, regulation, & control, then by your standard non-capitalist economies are a myth.

    Demand for population growth is a general problem of economic growth rather than type of economic system. Even before capitalism, subsistence farmers would bear more children for the additional labor.

    Central planning economies can be as or more destructive than the more capitalist ones: type of economy seems to have little bearing there, too. The USSR aggressively industrialized & would consistently pursue economic growth (to raise standards of living). It comes up in the Soviet constitution of 1977:

    • labor, free from exploitation, as the source of growth
    • continuous improvement of their living standards (art. 39)
    • steady growth of the productive forces (art. 40).

    Despite their command economy, their pollution was proportionately worse than the US’s

    Total emissions in the USSR in 1988 were about 79% of the US total. Considering that the Soviet GNP was only some 54% of that of the USA, this means that the Soviet Union generated 1.5 times more pollution than the USA per unit of GNP.

    Their planners considered pollution control

    unnecessary hindrance to economic development and industrialization

    and

    By the 1990s, 40% of Russia’s territory began demonstrating symptoms of significant ecological stress, largely due to a diverse number of environmental issues, including deforestation, energy irresponsibility, pollution, and nuclear waste.

    And this generously glosses over the extent of water contamination, hazardous dumping of toxic & nuclear waste into oceans, etc.

    The dependence on labor, capacity for environmental destruction, and demand for economic growth are not particular to any type of economy: they’re general.


  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldI have an idea ☝️
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    Just so you know, I reported you as you’re spreading ecofascism.

    yeah, well, that’s just, like, your opinion, man.
    Seems like you reported yourself for frivolous reporting: the destructiveness of humanity is undeniable.

    Suggesting the complete extermination of humanity (me included) would be better for the rest of the planet is not even ecofascism. No form of government is suggested: we’d all be gone. It’s at best a selfless, magnanimous deathwish: all other life on the planet deserves better.

    The ancient Mesopotamians told a myth of their gods—disturbed by the overpopulation of humanity—plotting & failing to exterminate humanity until they settled to keep them around after all. I think this made a lot of people very angry and should be widely regarded as a bad move. We probably should welcome if some alien overlords came along & completed what the ancient Mesopotamian gods didn’t finish.



  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldI have an idea ☝️
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    We do not need more people. Capitalism needs more people. We don’t.

    Weird issue to pin on capitalism: seems more of an economic growth issue regardless of type. From Bars, Pride and dating apps: How China is closing down its LGBT+ spaces

    At the same time, China’s population growth and economy are slowing. “The current population growth couldn’t support economic growth,” explains Hongwei, meaning there has been a push to encourage heterosexual couples to have larger families to ensure an abundant future workforce.

    Hence, the Chinese crackdown on LGBT+.

    The ban on Grindr could be put down to China’s wider dislike of Western apps, which are often accused of being vehicles for foreign influence. But removing Blued and Finka, which were both developed in China, represents a “seismic change in government attitudes towards homegrown LGBT apps”, says Hongwei.

    Before targeting Blued and Finka, the Chinese authorities led a campaign against authors of the “Boy’s Love”, or Danmei, same-sex romance stories, some of which feature explicit love scenes between men.

    Several Danmei writers, most of whom are female, have reported being arrested and questioned by the authorities, and in recent months two major Danmei sites have either shut down, or drastically reduced and toned down their content.

    Today, “officially, those Three No’s are still in place, but we are seeing evidence that the space for LGBT+ communities is starting to shrink”, says Marc Lanteigne, associate professor of political science at the Arctic University of Norway.

    Shanghai Pride shut down in 2020, and one year later the government shut down student LGBT+ accounts for “violating internet regulations”. Grindr disappeared in 2022, and in 2023 the Beijing LGBT Centre closed its doors after 15 years.

    In June 2024, the Roxie, Shanghai’s last officially lesbian bar, was forced to close “under pressure from the authorities".

    “The authorities have been slowly chipping away at those spaces that were open previously,” says Hildebrandt.

    With the closure of so many physical spaces, online networks had become “really the only places in which many members of the LGBT+ community could express their sexuality openly” he adds.

    But in contemporary Chinese politics, “the Maoist principles about equality have more to do with uniformity,” says Hildebrandt. “You gain equality by being more like everybody else. You don’t gain equality by being diverse.”

    In a bid to create greater conformity within the population, “there has been a push in China to reinforce traditional family values and, in some cases, traditional masculine values,” adds Lanteigne.

    Since the Covid pandemic, “the Chinese government has endorsed nationalist discourse and LGBT culture is seen as very politicised siding with Western ideologies”, says Hongwei.

    “There’s the impression that LGBTQ communities are by default connected to the West and could be seen as destabilising forces,” adds Lanteigne.

    Broader political and social forces may be at work, but the result is a real loss of liberty for gay and queer people in China. Hildebrandt says: “There is a real sense that it’s become a more difficult environment to be openly gay."

    older discussion


  • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldchemotherapy mother
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    Needs accessibility: image of pure text for no legitimate reason.

    Images of text break much that text alternatives do not. Losses due to image of text lacking alternative:

    • usability
      • we can’t quote the text without pointless bullshit like retyping it or OCR
      • text search is unavailable
      • the system can’t
        • reflow text to varied screen sizes
        • vary presentation (size, contrast)
        • vary modality (audio, braille)
    • accessibility
      • lacks semantic structure (tags for titles, heading levels, sections, paragraphs, lists, emphasis, code, links, accessibility features, etc)
      • some users can’t read this due to lack of alt text
      • users can’t adapt the text for dyslexia or vision impairments
      • systems can’t read the text to them or send it to braille devices
    • searchability: the “text” isn’t indexable by search engine in a meaningful way
    • fault tolerance: no text fallback if
      • image breaks
      • image host is geoblocked due to insane regulations.

    Contrary to age & humble appearance, text is an advanced technology that provides all these capabilities absent from images.


  • Nazi bar

    I never liked this stupid idea. If anti-Nazis start to hang out at a bar, does it become an anti-Nazi bar? What about both Nazis & anti-Nazis: who wins? It seems you privilege the presence of Nazis in deciding the kind of bar it is with no chance of anyone else showing up to decide the kind of bar they make it with their mere presence. You privilege Nazis.

    I don’t see anyone applying this logic to the wider web where we have Nazi sites: no one calls the web a Nazi bar. Or the world for that matter. Is your language a Nazi bar since some Nazis speak it? Yet some people can regularly use x.com without ever running into Nazis just like the web or the world. Nazi bar is classic bad company fallacy.

    The most pernicious effect of this fallacy is it just surrenders entire platforms to Nazis & pretends retreating to ideological bubbles is morally virtuous. By immaturely prioritizing comforting & unchallenging environments of social validation & self-righteousness maintained by silencing opposition over environments of unfettered public discourse that challenge us to develop intellectual depth & skill to actually debate serious disagreements, we erode critical thought, limit self-reflection & growth, and allow radicalization to propagate unchecked by exposure to deradicalizing influences & more intelligent perspectives. We promote backslides into repressive extremism by being cowardly ninnies unwilling to counter words with reason & public opinion. Have some conviction to stand up for your morality where it matters.