I think we’re pretty close to agreeing. When you differentiate between “need…for mental health reasons” and “need to survive”, it seems like you’re ignoring the issue of suicide and it’s connection to mental health.
If your takeaway from OP was about doing things for fun, then mine was how important fun actually is. Two sides of the same coin, I think, both very valid.
I hope that makes sense. I’m not really here for the competitive talking, I guess.



The “born this way” trope seems to be something that the media pushes a lot, and it’s wrong. Being able frame queerness as being not-by-choice helps some people give themselves permission to be queer. Anyone who is gatekeeping your identity is not an ally. Your identity is yours to do with as you please. If you’ve always been ace and only now are realizing it, great, that’s yours to determine. If you’re deciding that your identity now is ace and previously was something else, it’s your prerogative. The ability to grow and change is powerful.