• Dae@pawb.social
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    3 months ago

    I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it’s barely above a whisper.

    To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn’t support this.

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      3 months ago

      I’m autistic, rules are rules. The divider provider must be acknowledged.

      Voice is improved with practice. Join a toastmasters,or learn to sing?

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        3 months ago

        Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply? It’s a two-way street.

        And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.

        The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn’t happen.

        People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.

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          And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.

          Yes, that’s why you have to practice. I got over mine by working in a hifi shop when I was 16. You have to speak to people, practice makes you better

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            3 months ago

            “I did something great, you must now do it or you are less than me 👋”

            Now let me condescend to you with advice that you don’t want from a pretty obviously petty person that overcame one small flaw

            Sounds great! Where do I sign up!

            Yeeeeeah fuck off with that

            And I’d tell you that, in person, both assertively and clearly