People in the comments claiming it’s social anxiety but I have no problem talking to people face to face or in an internet-based voice or video call. But phone calls are just ass. The audio quality sucks, I barely understand what the other person says and I don’t get to choose when and where it happens, might be one or both people are in some noisy situation etc and it’s just all around so awkward. I also think it’s kinda rude. A message is “Hey I want to exchange X information, reply whenever you want”, a call is “YOU WILL PAY ATTENTION TO ME RIGHT NOW”. It’s also incredibly annoying when some official place insists on phone calls only. Fucking brilliant, now I have to take half an hour of my day queueing and/or calling repeatedly to get done what I would have typed out in half a minute as an email. It’s even worse if it’s them who call you. “You will get a call from us in the next 3 days”. Now I have to be on fucking high alert to be available at that exact time or the back and forth missed calls start. Instead of just receiving an email and replying whenever.
Edit: not to even mention that text is permanent and can be referenced later while calls are not
Why are people so offended over the fact there are some ppl who don’t like phone calls? 🤷♀️ who cares
It’s kinda childish, especially when you need something done now that requires details and understanding with no failure.
Edit: not to say you can’t achieve this with other forms but the idea that there aren’t millions of situations where you picking up the phone is more advantageous than a text.
Where’s the humanity in us all
Example and my ass just got outta bed and the coffee is still drippin’…if I have any questions, I can refer to the text instead of calling your ass…I do shit late, want a call at 2am?
Yes
especially when you need something done now that requires details and understanding with no failure.
That’s about the only reason a call is better and should be scheduled as a meeting If at all possible. If there’s no need to have a back and forth conversation just text or email so I don’t have to disrupt the half dozen other things I’m currently working on to deal with you. As for humanity I spend enough time interacting with people I don’t want to talk to. I’m not hurting for more.
Yeah but the world’s not just some corporate environment where you can just schedule a call, nor is it all about wither or not you feel like you want to talk to people or not.
I mean it sounds like you’re talking about specific scenarios in your life and not considering that picking up a phone and talking to someone is not much different than walking over to your neighbors and asking to borrow their wrench.
Sure you could text, but for god sakes man, where’s your humanity?
Maybe life is a lot different than it used to be but when I look around at all these people defending so vigorously anti social behaviour, I can’t help but think that inherently something is wrong.
walking over to your neighbors and asking to borrow their wrench.
This is exactly the kind of thing that could be easily addressed via a text message. “Hey do you have a <x> wrench I can borrow?” That’s a Yes/No question. Nothing to go back and forth over. If you want to chit chat you can do so when they bring it over.
Sure you could text, but for god sakes man, where’s your humanity?
Where’s your humanity? By calling someone you are demanding their attention NOW. Even if they don’t intend to answer, their phone ringing for 30 seconds is annoying and distracting. Just hearing the damn thing go off elevates my stress level. As opposed to a text or e-mail they can respond to at their convenience and only gives them a simple notification. Expecting someone to drop everything to address your needs instantly is more anti-social than respecting that they may be busy right now and send a text instead. I was raised to be respectful of others’ time when asking someone for something.
I can’t help but think that inherently something is wrong.
There is. Talking on the phone has been turned into a miserable experience 90% of the time. We’re sick and tired of dealing with people’s bullshit at our shitty jobs all day and then getting spam calls when we’re at home. Having to drop everything to deal with a phone call is annoying and we don’t want more of it. There’s nothing “inhuman” about being stressed out and tired. There’s about 6 people on this planet I enjoy speaking to and the odds that it’s one of them calling when my phone rings are next to 0.
Idk man. Sounds like you’re projecting quite a lot lol.
I for one will continue the tried and true act of comradery amongst my fellow peers and continue to recognize that we live in a society with many facets of living. You can do whatever you want, but I like the idea of spontaneously sparking up conversations with strangers and neighbours and friends and family. It might be the worst thing ever to you, but using the phone to call people in the real world is no big deal lol.
I’m not projecting, I’m giving you my perspective. You can ignore it if you wish but there’s a subset of people who your behavior is pissing off. Spontaneous conversation isn’t as fun a time for everyone as you seem to think it is.
And my perspective is that if you’re going to get pissed off about things like this then you should probably have a long hard look at yourself in the mirror lol.
Also in my experience it’s not that hard to play the field and figure out when people you are talking to want to talk or want to just get straight to the point. 🤷🏻
Nothing you want needs to be done immediately. NOTHING.
It’s not always about what I want lol
