No. What we need to do is punish oversexualization. It is not okay. Fetishization of a group of people is never okay. While I’m not a furry, I am trans, which means I know damn well how horrible it is to be constantly sexualized (also part of just existing as a woman) and fetishized.
Let me put this into perspective for you in a way I hope you understand. Can we both agree on the fact that women do not deserve to be treated as mere sexual objects by men, but often are? Your argument then follows that men’s sexualization of women for just existing should be solved by having more women who are harder to sexualize (i.e. the whole “she was asking for it by what she was wearing” shit). That is not the solution. I should be able to dress how I want to feel confident and beautiful without having to worry about some man taking that as an excuse to touch me, or worse. Furries deserve to be able to live their lives without being hypersexualized, too. The same problem fuels both: men who refuse to take responsibility and would rather blame the victim than admit fault of their own.
I’m not saying to shame women for what they’re wearing, quite the opposite. I’m for changing the culture with more “take back the night” type initiatives.
I’m all for interrupting people when they sexualize something that doesn’t have to be sexual, or for that matter, gender something that doesn’t have to be gendered.
Where you lose me is the not understanding why something is sexualized when it is clear to me why it is.
No. What we need to do is punish oversexualization. It is not okay. Fetishization of a group of people is never okay. While I’m not a furry, I am trans, which means I know damn well how horrible it is to be constantly sexualized (also part of just existing as a woman) and fetishized.
Let me put this into perspective for you in a way I hope you understand. Can we both agree on the fact that women do not deserve to be treated as mere sexual objects by men, but often are? Your argument then follows that men’s sexualization of women for just existing should be solved by having more women who are harder to sexualize (i.e. the whole “she was asking for it by what she was wearing” shit). That is not the solution. I should be able to dress how I want to feel confident and beautiful without having to worry about some man taking that as an excuse to touch me, or worse. Furries deserve to be able to live their lives without being hypersexualized, too. The same problem fuels both: men who refuse to take responsibility and would rather blame the victim than admit fault of their own.
I’m not saying to shame women for what they’re wearing, quite the opposite. I’m for changing the culture with more “take back the night” type initiatives.
I’m all for interrupting people when they sexualize something that doesn’t have to be sexual, or for that matter, gender something that doesn’t have to be gendered.
Where you lose me is the not understanding why something is sexualized when it is clear to me why it is.