I mean, the voice is you, but you can still observe it. To me it seems that I consist of several parts that chat, often also with each other (and often they are fighting). I am all of them, but I do not continually consciously choose what they say, so I can observe them.
I think that is what is meant here. Or maybe I am just really weird.
I can see that you did not mean anything offensive by it. However, I have had similar things happening to me (misdiagnosis of autism so my parents did not have to take responsibility for tramuatising me) and I might have responded similarly.
When someone imposes a diagnosis on you that is wrong and does it for selfish reasons, when you are a child, it is very harmful. It hurts your feeling of self worth to the core and makes you constantly question yourself and who you are. It takes a lot of strength to stop the selfdoubt and finally conclude that you do not have autism and that what you feel and think is correct and not what you have been told all your life by the people you were supposed to be able to trust. That is really a very difficult thing to do, because the anxiety that something is “wrong” with you after all is always there. It takes courage.
If you have been struggling with questioning yourself in this way and if you state that you are not autistic after all, then it is difficult to deal with a response suggesting that you might be wrong. That is almost painful.
I know that you did not mean it that way. There is no way you could have known if this is something you have no experience with. Also, I cannot say something about why someone else responds in a certain way. I might be wrong about that. However, when I read your question, I immediately got quite triggered as well. I guess I just wanted to explain where a response like this can come from in some cases.
Yes, that seems weird to me as well. For me there are several and often they even have discussions with each other. It is like a whole group with different voices that have different relationships to each other. I thought that was normal.
I do have CPTSD though from trauma very early in my youth. So, something might have gone wrong in my development with regards to this. Never thought this was not normal.