Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.
And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons “healthy” dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.
As someone who never dances, almost entirely due to social anxiety, I think you’d actually find that most people don’t care what you look like while dancing (unless it’s a competition or something). That’s really the key, from what I understand: stop giving a fuck about whether you look silly or not. Most of the people already dancing look silly, they have just learned to not care and enjoy it.
As I said, easier said than done of course. Alcohol can definitely help.
Oh, I know that. Doesn’t change my statement though, what I said is what’s happening; how to handle it, I didn’t really want to go into.
But yes, the solution is to not give a fuck, like you say. But that’s only the second best solution, the first one is for that not to be necessary in the first place.
People always like to think of themselves that they aren’t judgy and totally inclusive and tolerant. But it’s a natural human behavior to judge others and make it known. Most people think of themselves and say they don’t judge, but in the background, subconsciously, still do it.
So your doubt is probably justified. You have to get the real answer from how your friends actually behave, not from what they think or say.
People should dance more. It really does make things a bit more tolerable.
Legalize all drugs first.
The spice must flow.
Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.
And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons “healthy” dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.
As someone who never dances, almost entirely due to social anxiety, I think you’d actually find that most people don’t care what you look like while dancing (unless it’s a competition or something). That’s really the key, from what I understand: stop giving a fuck about whether you look silly or not. Most of the people already dancing look silly, they have just learned to not care and enjoy it.
As I said, easier said than done of course. Alcohol can definitely help.
Oh, I know that. Doesn’t change my statement though, what I said is what’s happening; how to handle it, I didn’t really want to go into.
But yes, the solution is to not give a fuck, like you say. But that’s only the second best solution, the first one is for that not to be necessary in the first place.
My Latino friends say the stigma doesn’t exist.
My doubt is palpable…
People always like to think of themselves that they aren’t judgy and totally inclusive and tolerant. But it’s a natural human behavior to judge others and make it known. Most people think of themselves and say they don’t judge, but in the background, subconsciously, still do it.
So your doubt is probably justified. You have to get the real answer from how your friends actually behave, not from what they think or say.
People should (insert any random activity here) more. It really does make things a bit more tolerable.