20 MB limit where? Not on my email inbox.

“most” is the keyword here.

People always like to think of themselves that they aren’t judgy and totally inclusive and tolerant. But it’s a natural human behavior to judge others and make it known. Most people think of themselves and say they don’t judge, but in the background, subconsciously, still do it.

So your doubt is probably justified. You have to get the real answer from how your friends actually behave, not from what they think or say.

Oh, I know that. Doesn’t change my statement though, what I said is what’s happening; how to handle it, I didn’t really want to go into.

But yes, the solution is to not give a fuck, like you say. But that’s only the second best solution, the first one is for that not to be necessary in the first place.

Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.

And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons “healthy” dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.