• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I’ve found a cocky grin with a “hey” goes really far when hitting on dommes irl. But I also have fuckboi energy so it fits the vibe.

    For any fellow subs reading this, you hit on dominant women like any other woman. When it comes time to flirtatiously joke around, then you can make some jokes about being submissive, but you want to have the situation felt out enough that you’re confident that she’s flirting back and that she’s receptive to such jokes. You never want to come off as a pushy sub, a lot of dommes have bad experiences with them (hell, even I, a sub, have had one)

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      Exactly. Though if you’re being a good little worm you shouldn’t need to make jokes about being a sub for her to know what the deal is.

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        3 days ago

        Unfortunately for me, many people read extroversion and confidence as dominance, so i have to be quite clear how easy it is to bring me to my knees and that no I really don’t switch

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          3 days ago

          Ha! That’s a good point - I’m on the flip side, socially I’m quiet and introverted, and I’ve had to lay down the law a couple of times due to crossed wires

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            2 days ago

            Yeah my domme is like that. It’s funny because I’ve come to associate short, introverted, and quiet/awkward women in the community with dominance, but I know that isn’t the stereotype yet lol

        • Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          3 days ago

          Big time feels.

          Also apparently (in my experience) being a male means I’m automatically in charge all the time :(