• Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        Not in my experience. I’ve pieced some things together, but unless I directly asked or it was relevant like medical history, my parents don’t really talk about their childhoods.

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          Same hat. The stuff I gleaned pointed to both of them growing up abused though so like… I understand why they don’t want to share that with me.

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          Your dad not being your biological father is medically relevant. Not saying the kid was unaware of that though.

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              If they are trans and the FATHER in the couple then they biologically can not be the actual father. Either they are the “mother” of the child or their partner is the mother and they used a doner. That’s how reality works. A case of they are the dad, not the father.

              Either that or they where treated as a girl growing up and forced to wear dresses and that’s why they are sad. And this is a dad joke to cover for childhood trauma of abuse. Which is an entirely equal possibility in reality.

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          Opposite expirence my parents and grandparents all talked about growing up and their childhoods a lot

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        Usually not, maybe later, shame and whatnot (substitute drug use for a realistic comparison).

        ETA I did tell (feel free to guess what, you’re probably wrong) when my kid hit the twenties, and gave relevant hints along the way so it wasn’t a surprise, which were not delved into by kiddo by their choice. But it’s a personal choice (medical issues aside) and extremely personal in it’s implementation and down to cases. This is personal morals, not societal ethics.

        Back off (not OP, reasonable query, just everyone, not your business and it shouldn’t be, unless there’s harm, sensitive stuff that takes careful handling, this is one of the reasons why privacy should be a right).

        Many will make mistakes here, and that’s OK if done in good faith. time will heal. If you’re a bigoted ahole (either generation) maybe less so, but even that can happen, give it a chance.

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        They may learn stuff about drugs somewhere, its not usually in the classroom.

        Better to have a conversation about it in the house and give your child the information to have a better understanding.

        At least that’s my opinion.

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          I too am worried about my children overdosing on HRT and becoming addicts.

          Remember kids HRT can completely change who you are, one day you’ll wake up, look in the mirror and see a completely different person looking back at you. Is that really what you want to happen?

          Dysphoria Alignment Remedy Education; D.A.R.E.

  • ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org
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    Not every dysphoric person is always frowning. There’s plenty of them with “Harold hide the pain” mentality. I get that this is an illustration but it’s reinforcing a stereotype.

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      I (female) remember bathing with my little brother. I was maybe 3 or 4 years old (he’s a year and a half younger than me), and was probably expected not to remember anything from that age.

      Childhood amnesia doesn’t come for everyone, though, as I have several memories from toddlerhood. I remember one time trying to figure out where I peed from, since my brothers’ parts were so obvious. When I told my mom, “I found the hole!” she told me not to look down there. Guess it’s okay to see penises but god forbid a girl learn about her own body.

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        Wow that is a great example of installing the body shame program that most people would have just been incepted with with no memory of the transfer!

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      Wait oh you mean you’ve seen your dad’s genitals.

      While I never showered with my dad or mum, my parents were never ashamed of their bodies and ran around the house naked all the time so I’ve seen my dad’s too. I didn’t closely inspect them though so for all I know they might be surgically constructed.

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        I guess I had a lot of dick questions growing up and also having a dick myself got the foreskin talk and associated instructions. Obviously this is all pre pre teen before it gets weird

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          Okay but a trans man could answer those questions as well, no? But I suppose that might be when the topic of past surgery could’ve come up for the dad and kid in the comic.

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            Any guardian could really, just affects the example they’d use I guess.

            Anyway I’m shocked to picture a kid just… not questioning what genitals are all about.

            I just have to remember it’s a fun comic about a hypothetical situation.

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              How do you mean, “question what genitals are all about”? He just didn’t know his dad used to have a vagina (or still has one, I did invent the part where he may have had bottom surgery). That doesn’t mean anything about whatever else he might know or not know. I think I’m confused about what you’re confused about? 😅

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                Ah the missing piece is I forgot about bottom surgery. I didn’t actually… know dudes did that too 🫣

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                  Well now you know :D

                  I actually looked up whether it would’ve been possible for my dad to have had surgery before I was born or even old enough to be aware of him being “male” and it’s been a thing MUCH longer than I thought, so we both learnt something. Anyway, not beating those allegations, dad. (j/k he’s very clearly cis)

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      Probably but is this where you wanted to post this?

      Edit: got it, see other reply.

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    This is actually pretty funny and I look forward to seeing it happen…one day