Having cool and upfront parents when it comes to sex can also be problematic awkward. My mother was a social worker in New York and Philly during the sixties and seventies. She use to tell me (as a pre-pubescent child) about how she use to have to put young girls (10-13) on birth control and how some already had a child at 13. I hit puberty at 10 so she gave me the talk about how regular masturbation was healthy and showed me how to put on a condom.
Decades later and I’m still emotionally scarred. *shiver*
EDIT: Fixed my wording as it made it sound like I don’t approve of the proactive approach. I very much so do.
You would have preferred being uninformed? Yeah her methods and timing might not have been the best, but take it from someone who knows - you were better off.
Oh, I 100% agree and I love my mother for that and many other things she did where she went above and beyond to prepare me for life. Still, that was…something.
Having an awkward talk awkwardly: ew. Having an awkward talk openly: also ew.
Good for your mother, though. I imagine you learned from her what many of us learned from the internet, books, media, peers, partners, and other sources.
That’s not so much being upfront and honest with sex as it is trauma dumping on you. The fact that you’re emotionally scarred from it decades later is a big clue here.
I am curious what they meant by “emotionally scarred”. Like, reality can be harsh, and learning that leaves an impression, but that doesn’t mean that the process was messed up, although it could have been.
Awkward is not bad, not always. It depends on the details.
Having cool and upfront parents when it comes to sex can also be
problematicawkward. My mother was a social worker in New York and Philly during the sixties and seventies. She use to tell me (as a pre-pubescent child) about how she use to have to put young girls (10-13) on birth control and how some already had a child at 13. I hit puberty at 10 so she gave me the talk about how regular masturbation was healthy and showed me how to put on a condom.Decades later and I’m still emotionally scarred. *shiver*
EDIT: Fixed my wording as it made it sound like I don’t approve of the proactive approach. I very much so do.
You would have preferred being uninformed? Yeah her methods and timing might not have been the best, but take it from someone who knows - you were better off.
Oh, I 100% agree and I love my mother for that and many other things she did where she went above and beyond to prepare me for life. Still, that was…something.
Having an awkward talk awkwardly: ew. Having an awkward talk openly: also ew.
Good for your mother, though. I imagine you learned from her what many of us learned from the internet, books, media, peers, partners, and other sources.
Getting sex ed and intercourse tips from my mother was horrifying, but it saved me from many mistakes. Not all, but many.
That’s not so much being upfront and honest with sex as it is trauma dumping on you. The fact that you’re emotionally scarred from it decades later is a big clue here.
I am curious what they meant by “emotionally scarred”. Like, reality can be harsh, and learning that leaves an impression, but that doesn’t mean that the process was messed up, although it could have been.
Awkward is not bad, not always. It depends on the details.
I think you meant “emotionally scarred” but if I’m honest, “emotionally scared” is also true.
I really hope that’s just poor phrasing…
On a banana dude! Same as they do (or did) in school. Sheesh!
LOL, it was poor phrasing.
Man, even after the edit I was like wtf, did she put a condom on her erect 10 yo’s dick?!